Is it Too good to leave?! Or too good to stay?!

People struggling with problems in the relationship say this as their answers "Yes, No, May be". Neither me nor her/him see the reality of marriage but if your spouse doesn’t understand how his/her actions are affecting you – and even worse, refuses to compromise then your marriage will be difficult to rebuild.

To rise from the rock bottom, both the partners have to see how their actions (non-actions) are affecting the relationship and both of them should be willing to work on it. If your spouse refuses to accept reality, then you have to decide if you want to stay in your marriage the way it is or just call it quit.

You know how she/he sees things are, but doesn’t care or rather being unpredictable some (most) of the times. The key is communication, but if your partner doesn’t care how you feel or whether the relationship is healthy, then perhaps it’s a sign your marriage is riding on one way. Few ppl quote, my partner got "it” but “it” doesn’t matter to them anymore.

Am I connected with my spouse? When on the initial days of marriage, you probably felt understood, heard, connected, give and take, loved with your partner. Time passes, and on and on AND ON the stress kicks you badly to take a toll and you find in returns with an empty heart/empty soul that points you’re not connected anymore. This may not be necessarily a sign your marriage is over it just means you need to make the time and effort to reconnect.

But no matter whether it is the beginning of relationship or being lived together for few yrs. When you find the emptiness travels with you for quite sometime then your relationSHIP is driving different and you need to identify something or the other.

Have you ever been depend on your spouse? X say 'yes, of course' but why do you think that it is not working out? The reason for this could be different visions. Where is the emotional bond between us? Being single is better than mingle? I would say "No, that's a place where you admit yourself hidden". Each person are depend on each other both physical and emotional. When one comes down but the other focus on the topic of argument, opting instead to bring up past mistakes or reopen old wounds, then your marriage may be leaning towards “over.”

Letting go of someone you love isn’t something you do once and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy rather! Instead, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.

Mr.H