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Ma fav. numbers...



Mr.H

ABCD of Achievement....

A void negative sources, people, things and habits.

B elieve in yourself.

C onsider things from every angle.

D on't give up and don't give in.

E njoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.

F amily and Friends are hidden treasures. Seek them and enjoy their riches.

G ive more than you planned to give.

H ang on to your dreams.

I gnore those who try to discourage you.

J ust do it!

K eep on trying, no matter how hard it seems.

I t will get better.

L ove yourself first and foremost.

M ake it happen.

N ever lie, cheat or steal. Always strike a fair deal.

O pen your eyes and see things as they really are.

P ractice makes perfect.

Q uitters never win and winners never quit.

R ead, study and learn about everything important in life.

S top Procrastination.

T ake control of your own destiny.

U nderstand yourself in order to understand others.

V isualize it.

W ant it more than anything.

X ccelerate your efforts.

Y ou are unique, nothing can replace you.

Z ero in on your target, and go for it!!

Mr.H

Wanna Suceed? Fail First!

If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate.' Thomas Watson, founder of IBM, uttered these famous words.

As you try to leave an impressive mark at work, a failure can bring unexpected twists and turns. How you deal with failure is what will ultimately help you succeed.

The question is: are you smart enough to learn from your mistakes?

What is considered workplace failure

While there's no standard definition of workplace failure, you know it's happening to you if you can associate with any of the following examples at your workplace:

Not meeting deadlines consistently

If you get the stick from your boss repeatedly for not finishing tasks on time, you seriously need to consider a course in time management.

If you have taken on too much workload and set yourself an unrealistic timeframe, you may have just set yourself up for failure.

Tip: Trust your instincts. When you feel bothered, speak up. It may take some guts initially, but it will save you face later. In case you miss the chance, request for a private meeting with the boss to explain your feelings about a short notice to meet a tight deadline.

Fighting with colleagues/ peers

In this age of teamwork, conflicts with people and petty fights with your boss definitely get labeled as failure.

Tip: Find common ground and never take sides in case of a conflict. If you are involving your supervisor, tell him/ her how the conflicts within the team affect your productivity and morale -- that way, you will not sound like a whiny complainer.

Not keeping promises

Your customer's product is not ready or has not been delivered. It's a massive service failure and you have no clue how to salvage the relationship.

Tip: Be honest with your customer and tell them you will do whatever it takes to fix the issue. Never hide behind policies or procedures.

Your clients are human and will appreciate your honest effort. The next time they give you business, surprise them with super fast delivery to gain the credibility back.

Making excuses

Constant excuses can label you as undependable; you could be considered overly defensive and resistant. You may be strong otherwise; however, if you're always covering up your shortcomings with excuses, your negative reputation will make you succumb to failure.

Tip: Face the facts and stop procrastinating. Take other people's help to get things done.

If you still fail, apologise and fix the issue without hiding behind fictitious explanations. If your boss says the report was late, you can choose to ignore but it does not become any less true.

My great idea bombed

You creative pursuits got the better of you and you spent the company's money designing a product so way ahead of it is time that nobody bought it. While you were expecting laurels for your creativity, your boss asks you for a report to justify the investment.

Tip: Acknowledge the failure but don't apologise; risk-taking is a skill required to succeed. Tell your colleagues you know one more way of 'How not to do it'. Analyse what went wrong and crack it the next time around.

First, take time out

"The problem with many young professionals is that they aim for a flawless career from the moment they enter the workforce. They have high aspirations and want to be seen as credible professionals with a 100 percent track record of success. They don't realise that nobody made it big without failing a few times and the ones who succeed are the ones who bounce back from their failures," says Rohini Verma, a Delhi based clinical psychologist.

Take time out to think about what's going wrong with your strategies. Don't be in a rush to get into the disaster recovery mode. Take a small break; go for a vacation or a long drive.

Try meditation or yoga to help you ease your mind and focus. The objective is to take your mind off work so you can think about workplace challenges from a new perspective.

Next, analyse your failure

There could be several reasons but, if you get to the bare bones, there are two factors that stand out:

You are stuck in the wrong job

This is a no brainer. You need to have the aptitude for the work you are doing. If you're in the wrong job, you tend burn out quickly and get tired of your job, which leads to more failures.

However, figuring what you want to do for a living day in and day out takes some consideration. Try to get diverse experience in many fields and then decide what you would like to do for a career.

You are just plain careless

Maybe you failed because of your own sloppy work, or you just did not spend enough time understanding what you were doing or you made some hasty decisions or misunderstood your job profile.

If these happen to be the reason/s, you need to listen, accept the facts and shape up for the job.

Now, take steps

Workplace failures are a part of life but, if dealt with well, can turn out to be life changing events. Here are some smart strategies to repair your workplace failures and mistakes:

Acknowledge your failure

Taking ownership for your mishap is the first and the most important step. Blaming others rather than yourself for the new product nobody seems to be buying will create tension at office and spoil your working relationship with others as well. You are much better off focusing on the actual sense of the issue and what went wrong.

Don't make it personal

Criticism of your work does not mean your colleagues/ customers are targeting you as an individual. If you goofed up during an important client presentation, it doesn't make you a bad employee nor does it negate your prior accomplishments.

Learn from your failure

So what if your idea bombed? You should use this to your advantage in preparation for your next big project. Analyse what went wrong or could have been altered. Maybe you could have done some more research, or could have tested your idea before you went public or perhaps taken the advice of some senior members of the team.

"Treat work life like a game of chess. One bad move does not mean it's the end of the game. If you take a grip of the situation, you'll always get the opportunity to strike back," says Prabh Sharan, training manager with Kingfisher Airlines, Mumbai.

Make genuine friends

Have people on whom you can bank in good as well as bad times. Take their advice. Ask them for feedback on your ideas and let them play the devil's advocate. In an already competitive world, any help you can get should be welcomed. Don't run the solo race.

Don't get emotional

You are bound to feel frustrated and upset when you miss an important deadline that impacts a client, but don't blow it by making it all public.

The angry young man title will not get you any rewards at the office. Maintain your dignity and be quick with your apology in order to salvage your reputation.

Never say die

'No guts, no glory' is a clich worth repeating.

Failure can be one of the best teaching tools; the best part is it doesn't have to be your own mistake in order for you to learn from it.

In the words of Michael D Eisner, chairman & CEO of Disney Corporation, 'Recovering from failure is often easier than building from success.'

Even if you fall flat on your face, you can always use the valuable lesson you learnt on your way to the top.

Source: http://in.rediff.com/getahead/2006/may/16fail.htm

Mr.H

Love Story (Reality)

Friend: Happy birthday!
She: Haan…tha……nk yo….u…was just getting up from the bed.
Friend: Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!
She: Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.

Friend: Who???
She: Come on, who else, Nitin.

Friend: Oh, ok. So, what’s the plan for today?
She: Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.

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Friend: “Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam’s show!!! Who accompanied you?”
She: Nitin

Friend: By the way, who referred your CV in SoCrates? I mean you don’t know anyone there, right?
She: No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.

Friend: I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.
She: No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn’t have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.
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Friend: If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?
She: I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That’s why I am relaxed a bit.
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Friend: How was your written test in Philips?
She: I failed yaar. The day before the test I had prepared perfectly. Nitin had come to our room. He taught me the basics of embedded programming concepts. I was very confident only because of him. But something else was in store for me.

Friend: Then, what did you do on Sunday?
She: We had gone to see “Lakshya”. He doesn’t see Hindi movies. But as I was upset after failing in the Philips written test, he took me for movie. I was very happy and surprised that he himself decided for a Hindi movie, and he was very happy that I enjoyed the movie. And you know; we had dinner in Pizza hut. It was his belated B’day treat!

Friend: And, what was your belated gift
She: Gift!! I had given the gift on his B’day itself. I was the first to call him at 12 in the night, he was busy throughout the day, and somehow we could meet in the evening and I gifted him with a cute time piece with a nice quote on it. He doesn’t have time sense, so my time piece must always remind him of this. That day he didn’t give me any treat as he had to go back to office. Yesterday I had a fight over this, you know! Poor kid.
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Friend: Hello…what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?
She: Listen, I will call you later.

Friend: You didn’t call me back in the morning, so I called now.
She: Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn’t have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.
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Friend: Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.
She: Why not? You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That’s why I am very happy. All of his hard work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He’ll be leaving next month.

Friend: You will miss him.
She: Badly. I am so much dependent on him. I must thank Sanju, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives and on top of all, no job. He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding, so trustworthy…a true friend.

Friend: He loves you yaar.
She: I know.

Friend: And you? Don’t you love him?
She: I don’t want to.

Friend: Don’t tell me. You also feel for him.
She: I know yaar. He has everything that I expect in my dream-life-partner. I know I can never get a true life partner like him. But I don’t want to commit.

Friend: What is stopping you? I really don’t understand. When Miya-beevi are razi kya karega kazi?
She: Please…don’t say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that.

Friend: Is he a fool not to understand your feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don’t leave him alone.
She: I have told him everything about my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different caste. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent’s feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.

Friend: Hmm, I don’t understand at all.
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She: This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.
Friend: Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.

Friend: Any guesses, who is he?
She: Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents’ happiness I have agreed for this.
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Friend: What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?
She: Nothing so special. I didn’t like the guy’s attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won’t go ahead with this matter.

Friend: But still you should have analyzed properly.
She: I shared my views with Nitin. He had called me the next day. He didn’t suggest me anything. He didn’t tell me to say “yes” or “no”, he didn’t preach what is right or what is wrong. But after talking to him I was satisfied that whatever decision I took was right.
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Friend: Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.
She: Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.

Friend: How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?
She: Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life? It’s all matter of time. Even I can’t do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.
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Finally “She” got engaged with a guy of her parent’s choice (with her “yes” of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new “him” regularly through chatting in Yahoo Messenger.

Finally “She” got happily married to “him”, very soon converting Nitin into memories, but deleting the memories was slow and almost impossible for Nitin.
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Why do girls/guys do like this?

She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants’ mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can foward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1st written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road, Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)

The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single “No”.

He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the “bhatka hua musafir” and she came as his “manzil”.
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to get a job for her in Bangalore.
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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called “love”, ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life. Girls want a perfect life partner but they don’t want to hurt their parents’ feelings, guys know that they can’t get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).Great! Or shall I say crap!

Or I think no need to be so serious about it.

She gets engaged, life goes on…
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on…
A heart which was used to “Good morning” SMSs learns to be happy with just the “Happy weekend” SMSs, life goes on…
No more “Unread messages” in the yahoo mail, life goes on…
No one to share coffee at “Barista” at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on…
No more consultants’ calls to be diverted and life goes on…
He starts smoking again, life goes on…
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on…
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on…
He is in his late twenties, happily married to a beautiful, understanding, mature, caring, broad minded wife! Anyway life goes on…

Mr.H

Good things

Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you do so, you are insulting yourself
-ALEN STRIKE.

You are not responsible for what people think about you.
But you are responsible for what you give them to think about you.
- STANLEY FERRARD.

A man is lucky if he is the first love of a Woman.
A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.
-CHARLES DICKENS.

Write your Sad times in Sand, Write your Good times in Stone.
-GEORGE BERNARD SHAW.

Behind every successful man, there is an untold pain in his heart.
-BILL JACOBS.

Without your involvement you can’t succeed. With your involvement you can’t fail.
-Dr. ABDUL KALAM.

Love your job but don’t love your Company because you may not know
when your company stops loving you.
-NARAYANA MOORTHY

You may get DELAYED to reach your Targets.
But every step you take towards your target is EQUAL to Victory.
-KARL MARX.

It’s better to loose your Ego to the one you Love,
than to loose the one you LOVE because of EGO.
-JOHN KEATS.

Don’t make promise when you are in JOY. Don’t reply when you are SAD.
Don’t take decisions when you are ANGRY. Think twice, Act wise. BE happy.
-Author Unknown (by me)

When you start caring about yourself, you start loving somebody.
But when start caring about others somebody will start loving you.
-Author Unknown (by me)

What is the Secret of SUCCESS... ? “RIGHT DECISIONS”
How do you make Right Decisions... ? “EXPERIENCE”
How do you get Experience.. . ? “WRONG DECISIONS”
-Author Unknown (by me)

"Happiness is not perfected until it is shared"
-Jane Porter

Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it."
- Lou Holtz

Boldness is the Fruit of Hope.
-Phillipine Proverb

Gratitude is the heart's money.
-French Proverb

Action without Thought is like shooting without
aim. - American Proverb

Do not say to your neighbor, "Come back later;
I'll give it tomorrow"--when you now have it with you.

Still achieving, Still pursuing.
-American Proverb.

The difficult is done at once,the impossible takes a little longer.
-slogan of the US Armed Forces.

Ask for advice but do what you think is best.
-greek proverb.

The Unexamined life is not worth living.
-Socrates.

Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.
-Norman Vincent Peale

Hope is a waking dream.
-Norman Vincent Peale

Hope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath and say, "Yes," and hope will reappear.
-Marsha Sientar.

True hope dwells on the possible, even when life seems to be a plot written by someone who wants to see how much adversity we can overcome.
True hope responds to the real world, to real life; it is an active effort.
-Monroe Forester.

Never Despair.
-Walter Anderson.

If matters go badly now, they will not always be so.
-Horace.

Progress is the activity of today and the assurance of tomorrow.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson.

If U think "YES" then it is Yes, If you think "It is Possible" then it is Possible, if you think "I can" then You can and finally if U think "I'll Hit" then definitely You will Hit. So "Hit Until U Hit"!
-Hasan B.Navaz.

Mr.H

Proverb

I was traveling in the cab n I heard the proverb which is worth publishing. Here it is

'Vizhundhal uramai vizhu, ezhundhal maramai ezhu. '

Changing into the form of 'English' pardon me if there's an error.

'Drop in as a Fertilizer, and grew up like a tree'.

This one was written by Dr. Kaviko Abdur Rahman (a poet).

Mr.H

Hate Letter

This one was a 'Chain letter' but it looks beautiful. This is a love letter from a boy to a girl. However, the girl's father doesn't like him (who else?!) and want them to stop their relationship...and so...the boy wrote this letter to the girl…and he knows that the girl's father will definitely read this letter. Here we go

1 "The great love that I have for you
2 is gone, and I find my dislike for you
3 grows every day. When I see you
4 I do not even like your face;
5 the one thing that I want to do is to
6 look at other girls. I never wanted to
7 marry you. Our last conversation
8 was very boring and has not
9 made me look forward to seeing you again.
10 You think only of yourself.
11 If we were married, I know that I would find
12 life very difficult, and I would have no
13 pleasure in living with you. I have a heart
14 to give, but it is not something that
15 I want to give to you. No one is more
16 foolish and selfish than you, and you are not
17 able to care for me and help me.
18 I sincerely want you to understand that
19 I speak the truth. You will do me a favour
20 if you think this is the end. Do not try
21 to answer this. Your letters are full of
22 things that do not interest me. You have no
23 true love for me. Good-bye! Believe me,
24 I do not care for you. Please do not think that
25 I am still your boyfriend.:bheart: :bheart:

So bad huh! However, before handing over the letter to her, the boy told the girl to "READ BETWEEN THE LINES", meaning-only to read 1.3.5.7.9.11.13.15.17.19.21.23.25. (Odd Numbers)

So guys n gals…Please try reading it again! It's so smart & sweet....

Mr.H

Akkam Pakkam.....

If you have never seen a "Close To My Heart" catalogue, now is the time to check one out for yourself. This one dream number is an incredible crown which is beautifully picturised by cameraman Thirru, in the backwaters of Kerala.

Here is the lyrics penned

Pallavi:

Akkam Pakkam Yaarum Illa
Boologam Vendum
Andhippagal Unnarugae
Naan Vaazha Vendum
En Aasai Ellam
Un Nerukkathilae
En Ayul Varai
Un Anaipinilay
Verenna Vendum Ulagathilae
Endha Inbam Podhum Nenjinilae
Yezhazhu Jenmam Vazhnthuvitten!
(Akkam Pakkam...)

Saranam 1:

Nee Pesum Vaarthaigal Segarithu
Seiven Anbe Ore Agarathi!
Nee Thoongum Nerathil Thoongaamal
Paarppen Dhinam Un Thalaikothi!

Kaathorathil Eppothumae
Un Moochikkaatrin
Veppam Sumappen!
Kaiyodu Kaikorthu Naan
Un Maarpuchchootil
Mugam Puthaipen!

Verenna Vendum Ulagathilae
Endha Inbam Podhum Nenjinilae
Yezhazhu Jenmam Vazhnthuvitten!
(Akkam Pakkam...)

Saranam 2:

Neeyum Naanum Serum Munnae
Nizhal Rendum
Ondru Kalakkirathey!
Neram Kaalam Theriyaamal
Nenjam Indru
Vinnil Midhakirathey!

Unnaal Indru Pennaagavae
Naan Piranthathin Arthangal
Arinthu Konden!
Un Theendalil En Vegathil
Pudhu Jannalgal Thirappathai
Therindhu Konden!

Verenna Vendum Ulagathilae
Endha Inbam Podhum Nenjinilae
Yezhazhu Jenmam Vazhnthuvitten!
(Akkam Pakkam...)

Mr.H

Sky is the limit

A 10-year-old boy decided to study Judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident. The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after 3 months of training the master has taught him only one move.

"Sensei," the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?"

"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied. Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament.

Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after sometime, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still mazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals. This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

"No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue." Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard.

Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament.

He was the champion. On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind. "Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?" "You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of Judo. And second, the only known defence for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm." The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

"Sometimes we feel that we have certain weaknesses and we blame others, the circumstances and our self for it but we never know that our weakness can become our strength one day. Each of us is special and important, so never think you have any weakness, never think of pride or pain, just live your life to its fullest and extract the best out of it!".

"You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind."

Mr.H

My birthday gift

I have never commemorated this occasion for the last 5 yrs...bt this year I received a Spl gift 'Uummaah' from my sweetheart Sandy.

Mr.H

At the begining with you!

This one number from Richard Marx and Donna Lewis is pretty good.

Life is a road and I wanna keep going
Love is a river I wanna keep going on....
Starting out on a journey
Life is a road and I wanna going
Love is river I wanna keep flowing
In the end I wanna be standing
At the beginning with you.

Mr.H

Her wish

This poem was composed by my best pal and she wrote this one for ......

I Wish I could understand what he meant when he said "You are the only girl in the whole class who deserves to be given a red rose!"

I Wish I could hear the words his eyes tried to speak to mine on numerous occasions.

I Wish I could feel the warmth of his greeting every morning.

I Wish I could feel the pain he felt when it was time for us to depart.

I Wish I could realise well in time that he was the one I wanted to be with...........for the rest of my life.

I Wish I could ask him not to succumb to his parents' pressure to marry the girl of their choice.

I Wish he could see the tears in my eyes when he announced his wedding.

I Wish I had the courage to say just three words...................

......................."Be Mine Forever"

Mr.H

Excite laughter

LOL, I couldn't stop giving the sudden utterance or expression. I was checking with ma colleagues about the last crying scene in their life (just to kill the time Pheww!) . Now, I hafto to tell you about this big man (Mike- We know him in this nick) . When I asked 'Mama, do you remember when did you dropped tears recently'? Immediately he cracked the silence by 'Macha, just now I am coming back from the hospital admitting my Father-in-law'.

Pardon me Mike's F-I-L, it was the moment and the reaction which made everyone started burst out laughing & immediately burst into tears...Apart from this we all guys praying that Mike's F-I-L will get well soon.

Another lookout is about a guy called 'Prabhakar' who is from Tollywood. He spoke us about his 3 tamil words...'Thengai' (Coconut) (for which his wife always send him to the shop), 'Macha' and the climax here is 'Thee petti' (Match box) because he is a Chain-Smoker. Phewww!

Mr.H

I miss U! I hate U! I hate to miss U!

This one mail which I couldn't forget and something is really hitting me somewhere?!

H

Yep, that's how I feel. I miss u 'H', not a lot, not all the time, but a lot sometimes.

I miss the companionship, I miss being able to share stuff.I miss sharing my small triumphs and big disappointments. I miss being able to brag to u and I miss ur bragging. I miss ur useful advices, I miss having someone to vent my frustration. I miss being a part of ur life (atleast in my mind). I miss ur goofiness, ur little quirks, ur motivation which used to keep me motivated. I miss making u proud of me and I miss u making me proud. I miss u depending on me for small things.I miss u calling me on road asking me to look up stuff. I miss feeling jealous of unnecessary things like the time u would hang out with ur female friends and I miss u assuring me that they are not special. I miss ur sensing my mood just by my tone. I miss throwing tantrums and having someone put up with it. The list goes on..............

A couple of days ago I got my first praise and a mail from my HOD praising my work. I wanted to share it with 'H'. But I cannot. I could not call Pal or Smita, because that would not have been appropriate, I think. Such times I was able to just call 'H' and share my excitement. Not anymore?! I called my parents instead but somehow it wasn't the same.

I am a very stubborn person especially when it comes to people and relationships. I know my stubbornness will see me through and I am never going to pick the phone to make a call or write a mail to 'H'.

If only my fantasies, my dreams, my yearnings could be fulfilled. Since that's not going to happen I should just live this time out. And with time, hope that this state of loneliness becomes a habit. After all I pride myself at being extremely adaptable ......right! or is it Yeah right!

But I still LOVE U '.....'.

Ever ever ever ur

............

Mr.H

His devotion to Her

Prem was waiting eagerly in the Park. It had been six months since he last saw Aarthi. They had been in love for over two years and Aarthi’s sudden trip to US 6 months back had kept them apart for a while. Prem could not wait to see Aarthi.

Aarthi landed up in time and said “Hi Prem” with a smile. They both exchanged pleasantries and comfortably settled themselves in a bench preparing for a long chat. Aarthi said “Prem. There is something important that I wanted to discuss first. Will you forgive me if I upset you?”. Prem said “hey. Don’t be so formal. Go ahead”.

After a brief silence, Aarthi started. “Prem. Three months back, I met this guy called Arun in US. He has a magnetic charm about him and any woman who sees him will find him irresistible. But I thought he wont be interested in me as he could have the best girl in the world if he wanted. It was strange but he actually proposed to me the day I was leaving for India”.

There was total silence between them for a while. Then Prem spoke softly “What did you tell him?”. Aarthi said “I did not tell him anything. I was confused. You know, I like him very much. I find him irresistible. Will you mistake me if I say I fell in love with him?”.

Prem said “no”. Aarthi said “I promised you that I would marry you. But Arun stormed into my heart with his charm and I am very confused now. I actually want to marry Arun now but I know it would be unfair to you. See, I am never the type to switch partners but you would understand my situation if you had seen Arun. He is the best man I have ever seen and…….”. She stopped not knowing how to continue.

Then she added “Prem. I have no intention of breaking my promise to you. It is just that my heart is hit by a storm called Arun. But I don’t want to be unfair to you. I am leaving the most important decision of my life in your hands. You decide if I should marry you or Arun. I would go with your decision”. Tears started appearing in her eyes as she said those words.

Prem was silent for long moments. He was immersed in deep thoughts too. Aarthi wished and prayed that he was not hurting. Prem was a very good man and she would hate herself if he ended up getting hurt.

Finally Prem spoke “Aarthi. Marriage, to me, is a matter of individual choice and I cannot decide what is good for you. So, you should decide who to marry and I wont decide it for you. I understand you feel constrained by the promise you gave me. I know the promise you gave me earlier has made you indecisive now. So I am surrendering your promise back to you, so that you are free to decide what is right for you. In case you decide not to marry me, I wont sulk and take up drinking. In short, I wont become a Devadoss. I would lead my life as a confident individual and so your decision need not be driven by any fear”.

There was brief silence and then Prem asked “have I made myself clear?”. Aarthi said “yes”. After a few minutes they left the park for their respective residences.

Soon after she reached home, she started dialing her US friend Arun’s number. He came on line immediately “Hi. Is that Aarthi?”. Aarthi said “Yup. I did not give my reply when you proposed to me. Now I am giving my answer. My answer is NO. Let me tell you I am saying NO. There is nothing wrong with you, Arun. It is just that I happened to have a gem of a person as my fiancé already”.

Mr.H

Perspective

Harsha was in a sad mood when Adithi joined him in the balcony. Adithi asked mischievously if he had lost a fortune when his ship sank. Harsha said “I was worried about some problems at work”. Adithi was not just a good wife but she had always stayed a good friend since their marriage. So he explained the major politics happening at the highest level in office and how the morale of the team was low. Many of his colleagues were bitter and were planning to quit at the first opportunity they get. Harsha explained that the very thought of going to office irritated him these days. Adithi tried giving some suggestions but Harsha was too negative to take any of them. He said “it is easier for you to suggest Adithi. You should come to office and experience what we go through”. She smiled and said “let us hope things would improve. We cant do anything else. Let us sleep now”.

Harsha moved slowly to the bedroom. He watched Adithi entering the next bedroom. He called out “are you not joining me tonight dear?”. She replied “No. You are too negative today. I guess I need to be alone to get some good sleep”. He asked sadly “do you want to leave me alone tonight?”. She said “Not like that. I need to be alone dear. Sleep tight. Good night” and locked her room from inside. He feebly returned her greeting with a good night wish.

Harsha was feeling miserable partly from his office worries and felt worse because he could not get his dear Adithi to comfort him now. He could not get sleep. He walked out of his room and looked at the next bedroom door. He was wiser not to knock at the door. When she said something, she always meant it. Tonight, if she wanted to be alone, he dared not question it. He was a bit surprised that the window closer to that door was not properly closed. He tried opening the window and it opened. He knew that he could reach one of the door latches through the window but if she had put the second latch, the door cannot be opened from outside. He stretched his hand and tried opening the first latch. With difficulty, he opened it. Then he tried if the door was opening and it did. Good she had not remembered to put the second latch, he thought.

He slowly walked in. If she was aware of his presence in the room, she did not show it. Soon he moved closer to her. Adithi said in a surprised tone “how come you managed to find an entry?”. Harsha said “I found a way out. To be precise, I found a way in”. Adithi said “Harsha. Please go away”. He said “No. I wont and I cant”.

Adithi said “hey. You are pressing me hard”.

Harsha replied “I want to”.

“So you don’t care about me?”.

“Who said so? I know you don’t mind my presence too”.

She paused for a moment and then asked “Harsha. Are you happy now?”. He said “I am mighty happy now. You saw how smartly I won finally now. Are you happy too?”. She said “I am happy for you. I want you to be happy always”. Harsha asked “You saying initially that u wanted to be alone and leaving the window open were all part of the plan to make me feel happy?”. Adithi said “Yes it was my plan. Had you not known it, I would not have told you”. Harsha was nearly in tears when he said “I love you”. They both melted in each other’s arms for the next half an hour. Later, Harsha said “we never value the good things that we have. We always worry about those things that we don’t have. You are the best thing in my life and why should I worry about anything else?”. Adithi smiled and said “I just wish to be as good as you are. You are the best thing in my life too”.

Mr.H

2 things to remember yesterday

heya howdy doody gents n ladies?

Yesterday, though I had a tight schedule at home I managed to visit Dentist (who is my friend). We had a lot of gallas n stuffs. Remember those days with him for movies and dinner....hmmm pretty good to recall :-)There was a song from a Tamil movie called 'Naan Avan Illai' which he immediately said that the Lead actor's character in the movie is same as mine.

Uf huh! I was shocked just like you ppl. Then I managed to come out from that explaining him that I am no more a play boy ;-)

Later in the evening while returning back to work, I received a call from ma best friend 'Ram' who thrilled me with a beautiful news that he is going to get engaged tomorrow at Dindigul (a small town at Tamil nadu). I was so delighted and expressed that I am so happy for him. Ah haan! There I am and I told him very clearly that before he tie knot he needs to settle watever he promised me to deliver;-) Pheww!

Mind blowing thing is...he accepted to get me a Raymond's suit for his marriage wowowowowowoww :-) Wishing these guys good luck and a happy life.

Mr.H

New 7 Wonders of the world

A day of reckoning

Finally, the day to remember with the tally announced. The new seven wonders of the world were named Saturday following an online vote.

The final results produced this list of the world's top human-built wonders:

• India's Taj Mahal

• Mexico's Chichen Itza pyramid

• Brazil's statue of Christ the Redeemer

• Peru's Machu Picchu

• The Great Wall of China

• Petra in Jordan

• The Colosseum in Rome

The organizers said more than 90 million votes had been cast for the total of 21 sites across.

For more, visit http://www.new7wonders.com

Mr.H

Pogonology?

Growing a beard requires a commitment. The experience can even be a test of character as well as a surprising process of self-discovery. Do you have what it takes?

I have been hearing from many of my pals about 'Why grow a beard?' Logically, the question ought to be: Why NOT grow a beard? If you have developed enough facial hair to allow you to grow a beard, then you owe it to yourself to grow it out at least once during your lifetime -- even if only as an experiment. You may be so pleased with the results, even unexpectedly so, that you decide to keep the beard permanently.

Most importantly, the decision to grow, and subsequently keep, your beard is yours. The only opinion that really matters is yours. So, go for it! If I like it, I'll keep it. If not, then shave it off. At the very least I will have given it a try and I'll know what it was like to grow the beard.

So dear and near one's, this isn't a 'Love Failure' or a symbol of dullness...Just wanna try it out. 'SIMPLE'. Thanks for the mail 'Ashita and Ritu' worrying much about this one (Comparitively). Phewww!! Good luck 'n' keep going guys!

Mr.H

Meaning of a Flower

Heya howdy doody ladies and gents -

Upon u guys request, I am posting the 'Meaning of a Flower'. Play a safe game ;-)

Aster - Talisman of love

Begonia - A fanciful nature

Carnation (red) - Admiration

Carnation (white) - Pure and ardent love

Chrysanthemum (red) - I love you

Chrysanthemum (white)- Truth

Daffodil - Regard

Daisy - Innocence, gentleness

Forget-me-not - True love

Globe amaranth - Unfading love

Hibiscus - Delicate beauty

Jasmine (white) - Amiability

Jasmine (yellow) - Modesty

Larkspur - An open heart

Pansy - Thoughtful recollection

Primrose - Young love

Rose (lavender) - Love at first site

Rose (orange) - Desire and fascination

Rose (peach) - Appreciation

Rose (pink) - Perfect happiness

Rose (red) - Love and desire

Rose (white) - Charm and innocence

Rose (yellow) - Friendship

Roses (white and red)- Unity

Rosebud - Beauty and youth

Tuberose - Dangerous pleasure

Tulip - You are the perfect lover

Verbena - May you get your wish

Violet - Modesty and simplicity

Mr.H

Tough times?

The economy is slowing. All you hear are the cries and moaning that things aren't good, and aren't going to get better anytime soon.

The first thing you should ask yourself is: "What is a Tough Time?" The answer is that's it's a perception. What you see is what you get....

If the economy is bad, we say it's a recession. If we lose our job, it's a depression. Everything is relative yet someone, somewhere is always worse off.

If we're going through Tough Times. I'm not making light of it. But realize that a Tough Time is 'As we see it'. What we feel is real. Welcome to reality.

Self-fulfillment in the best of times, but in bad times it's even more important to do a reality check. Don't only tell yourself 'Things could always be worse', but try to maintain a positive attitude.

In Tough Times it's of crucial importance to have a positive vision of what will happen later. It's important in good times, too, but when the going gets rough it's imperative to look beyond the immediate mess. Remember, Tough Times won't last. Things always change. Those who most successfully rise above their current difficulties are those who can see things positively, even in a negative time.

Talk nicely to yourself. Talk positively about the things you accomplish and will accomplish in the company and in your life. Don't bitch and complain about Tough Times. Tell yourself and others to enjoy what they have now....it could be worse. The economy might go down, but it's not exactly.....!

Life isn't fair! That's life!

Be Positive folks!

Mr.H

To be a judge of the self means to be free from judging others.

Expression:

The one who becomes the judge of the self and not that of others, is free from criticising others unnecessarily. Such a person also does not plead his own case by giving excuses and proving himself right. So he is able to bring about a positive change in himself and others are able to take inspiration from the change that he brings in his own life.

Experience:

When I am free from giving excuses and reasons for things going wrong, specially to myself, I am able to experience progress in my life. For everything that happens, instead of blaming others I am able to take some new learning and use it for my own self-progress. I am able to remain light because I have no expectations from others, but am able to bring about a change in them through my actions.

Mr.H

'The Crescent Moon- THE WICKED POSTMAN'

It was raining all the day long and it was an early evening with the great claps of thunder and lightening towards the earth together in a bundle. Meanwhile, the bedroom of an abode with a Mother and her child. She was burying her face in her hands, wept inconsolably. It had been quite a long time (6 months) but there was no news of her husband. Later her child came close and sat next to her probing 'Why do you sob mother?'

For a moment, she looked at the kid and gave him the smile with the dropping tears on the floor. Son, Mother do you cry because the 'Wicked Postman' doesn't bring you Father's letters? He is bringing letters in his bag for almost everybody but keeps Father's letter himself. ‘I will write you letters myself mother'. And I shall not give them to the wicked postman; I shall bring them to you myself. And I shall read them for you.

When I grow big, I will never let you down and write letter far sitting like father. Instead, I will work on this town and write you letters and give it to you myself. Mother, couldn't gleam or twinkle and dropped tears without her knowledge starring at the kid.

The source of inspiration is Rabindranath Tagore's 'The Crescent Moon- THE WICKED POSTMAN'. Now don't accuse me of plagiarism, its only a blog (of ma way)!

Mr.H

Will U be my Valentine?

She awoke in the middle of the night and sat by herself. She saw the moonlight that streamed in through the window lying besides her. Like a lover it lay peacefully. Unmoved and untroubled by her presence and only in silence conscious of her sweet presence. Suddenly, a strong gust of cold winter wind came in through the window and tapped the memories of her past that slept in her soul…

She wondered if today had been a dream. For today she had seen him again after six years. In these years she had dreamt of him almost each night and each morning had brought to her the same revelation that he was not there. Sometimes she would dream that he had left with no reason and now come back. Sometimes that he had been lost in a crowd of men and some friend had found him and brought him back home. At other times that he had been hiding from the world and become a recluse for some mortal sin he had committed but had finally come home to rest his head on her bosom and weep… She saw him singing in the city nightclub today. He was singing beautifully. She had been drinking in the club and did not let him know of her presence. She thought if he had changed. But if he had changed why had she not? After all they had come together in love. She had not loved him alone. He had loved her equally.

His singing today had reminded her of their lovemaking. He was just as tender in bed as he was—as he would put it—when making love to his audience with his voice. She had men after he left him. But they could not know nor honor in her, her deeply mystical femininity. They had made love to her only to satiate their own selves. Only he had ever truly known her and in the complete knowledge of the truth of her soul had made love to her with a gentle passion. His masculine kindness and gentle understanding had broken her heart and she had wept tears of pure joy and she had known that she belonged to only him.

The silvery moonlight resting on her bed recollected her of the veils of silence that they had together drawn between them lest they touch with their fingers the mystical and symmetrical beauty of their lovemaking and soil it. Only intuitively they had recognized the other person's needs and only silently had they sought to answer it and satiate it. And it was this silvery cord of mutual empathy that had the golden beads of promises of an eternal love.

She switched on the night-lamp; picked her diary and opening the page to 14^th February, started writing.

For long have you tortured my body and soul. And for long have I waited. No more will I. Let us offer ourselves to Love again. Will you be my Valentine?

She stopped writing and put the diary beneath her pillow. And snuggling against the bed sheet she tried to sleep. Suddenly, the doorbell rang and woke her up. She did the mechanical motion of picking her body from her bed and started for the door. She had left herself in her bed.

"Come on ................", it was a whisper, which she barely heard. But she had looked in his eyes and understood. She got on ................ and ....................... her. They held hands and her tears fell on her cheeks and trickled on her......... Like two gentle souls unruffled by the futility of the world and existing in a world of their own they danced to a slow rhythm. Mystery pervaded their whole existence and like the gentle silvery moonlight rested just besides them.

Mr.H

Adieu to Mr.Jeeva

A notable Cinematographer turned Director 'Jeeva' bid bye to this world on Tuesday, June 26 2007 at St.Petersburg. This had happened while he was shooting in Russia for his latest Tamil movie 'Dhaam Dhoom' starring Jayam Ravi and Kangana Ranaut.

It was an 'Incredible Truth'. I truly loved his arts starts from '12B' to the recent hit 'Unnale Unnale'. I really enjoyed his work for Shankar's Gentleman, Kadhalan and Indian. Jeeva has also worked for Bollywood movies like HULCHUL, YEH TERAA GHAR YEH MERAA GHAR, HERA PHERI and BHAGAM BHAG.

To Mr.Jeeva :-

We really miss an astonishing talented person like you and we wish your soul 'Rest in Peace'. Sometimes it is difficult to say "adieu" but we got to say to the least. Your memories for us will reflect in your 'Creations' as ever.

Mr.H

Strangers- not allowed?

The little girl was sitting alone, lost in some distant thought, When on the doorway of her heart, she heard a faint faint knock.

Lil Girl : ‘Who’s there?’ she asked, and then waited for the stranger to reply,

And when she heard no reply forthcoming, scared, our little girl began to cry;

Stranger : ‘Don’t cry, little girl, let me in, I wont hurt you,’ called the stranger from outside,

Lil Girl : ‘Mama asked me not to let strangers in,’ said the little girl, Rules must never be defied!

The stranger knocked at the door again, ‘Open up little girl,’

Lil Girl : ‘Who are you?’ asked the little one curiously, ‘why have you come my way?’

Stranger : ‘I’m love little girl, and I have to come, into your heart to stay!’

Lil Girl : ‘Sorry love, I can’t let you in, my mama says I mustn’t trust strangers,’ our little girl pitifully replied.

And so love sadly walked away.

Need I say, Rules must never be defied?

Mr.H